It's been almost two years since I started hosting my informal creative brunches, and they've come to be an important part of my world. More than I ever imagined, these gatherings are sustenance for my soul and a wonderful way I can give back to the women in my community who support me and love on me in so many beautiful ways. There's just something about coming together in a space of joyful creativity and good food with no other expectations than to just be together, that is just so nourishing.
A lot of people ask me how I pull together these gatherings, and I guess I never really thought in detail about the how... just more the why, which I have always been very clear on when I began to open up my home and hold space for this magic to happen.
So if you're longing to create space for hosting a creative gathering, here are a few things I learned along the way to make it as simple and stress-free as possible.
1. Know your why. Intention is power. For me, my why was all about finding my people and building local community. As someone with an amazing online community that is spread out all over the globe, I wanted to somehow connect with those same kindreds nearby. I began with a small handful of women I knew, and it grew organically from there. Eventually, I came to realize this was not only a nourishing soul-practice for me, it was also an important gratitude practice of mine. No PR or fancy planning. Just all heart and TLC.
2. Get over the imperfections. A huge lesson I had to learn was that no one was coming to judge me on my home or my furniture or my housekeeping skills. People are coming to gather and connect in creative joy and are gracious for such time and space! I had to let that go and embrace the occasional cobweb, the mismatched chairs, the unfinished dining room table and all the domestic imperfection. It may sound trivial, but it was an honest hurdle and one I'm happy to say I don't struggle with at all any longer.
3. Make it easy on yourself. Use what you have. Not everything has to be made from scratch. There are no fancy supplies you need to buy. Do not overextend yourself to the point where you can not be present and have fun, yourself. Allow others to come and fill the space you created with their own bits of joy and gratitude in the form of food or pretty paper. Learn to not only give, but to receive! I always ask people to bring a little something to share, and have magazines and scraps handy as it's what I always have an abundance of. We make little collages, cards and dream boards while happily chatting, eating and gluing. It's serious yet simple medicine.
4. Have no expectations. Build it and trust whoever needs it, will come. I have never asked for RSVP's (though people have generally been gracious about letting me know), and have faith in each gathering manifesting in just the way it's supposed to. Somehow it always does. It is never the same exact group, and there always seems to to be enough room around my table. All you need to do is stay open.
5. Pour in the LOVE. I always add little touches of personal love and gratitude... little seasonal favors and always a message of love and thanks for my guests to take home with them. I want people to leave full in every way. I'm so grateful to have others come, and I know it's sometimes a huge effort to walk into a new space with new people. But what always ends up happening is through the messiness of making and showing up, connections are made and deep nurturing happens.
It truly is magic.